This is another common complaint of wives against their husbands. Many men attend to their jobs more than to their wives. Others attend more to friends and relations. Your wife is your Queen and she needs to be attended to. Matthew 6:21 states that, “Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Your wife is your treasure, and your heart ought to be more with her than with your work, relations and friends.
It is wrong not to spend quality time with your wife daily. It is wrong to leave her alone at home while you go out to enjoy the companionship of your friends. Marriage was created by God for companionship. Genesis 3:16 says that a wife’s desire shall be to the husband. This desire is practically demonstrated by the longing of many wives for husbands who will come home at the right time to be with the family.
Attend to your wife when she is ill, emotionally down or lonely. Attend to her to prove that she is special in your life. Make her truly feel like a queen, a treasure to be adored. This will bring out the best in your wife and make her an indispensable help meet.
One of the best ways to enliven your relationship is to make it romantic. Many wives are crying for a little more tenderness in their relationships. When last did you say sweet words to your wife? When last did you take her out? Why not arrange to do so today. Yes, today! You’ll be glad you did. Buy gifts for your wife. Remember special moments in her life, her birthdays, wedding anniversary, etc “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel”(I Timothy 5:8).
Our relationship to God is a marital relationship. Isaiah 54:5 says. “For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall He be called.” Jesus, our spiritual Husband, is tender and romantic in the way He beholds and addresses us. He says we are “the apple of His eyes”. Women want to be called by special names by their husbands just as much as we want to be cherished by our spiritual Husband.
Do you have a special name for your wife? Some men think this is not necessary. Some husbands call their wives by the name everyone calls her. That’s not right. Your wife deserves a special name. One man calls the wife “the sugar of my tea.” Another chose to call the wife the “belt of my trousers.”
That sounds funny, but this man had his justifications. The wife developed a tradition of covering the husband’s “nakedness” at the least opportunity, in the same way a belt is used to hold a loose trousers tight on the waist.
Just be yourself. Choose a pet name relevant to your marital situation. But please don’t follow the example of one unrepentant husband I met. I had told him the necessity of treating the wife tenderly and calling her by a pet name. He didn’t quite agree with me. When I insisted, he grudgingly said, “Okay, Pastor, I’ll call her the mosquitoes in my net.”
If this is the pet name you have chosen for your wife, don’t complain when the mosquitoes begin to bite you.
Those who love to talk (negatively) will experience the consequences, for the tongue can kill or nourish life (Proverbs 18:21, New Living Translation). The King James Version of the same Scripture says: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof”. The twentieth verse of the same chapter adds that: “A man’s belly shall be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; and with the increase of his lips shall he be filled”.
